I recently talked with an adult adoptee about adoption. I asked this young woman if she had any advice for me as an adoptive mother. She said that her most important advice is to keep the lines of communication open so that my adopted child feels free to talk with me about his adoption. Adopted children need to feel free to ask questions about their adoption as they have them.
Her second most important piece of advice was to give your adopted child plenty of love. She said that as long as you have communication and love in your relationship with your adopted child, then you provide the foundation for the other pieces to fall into place.
Number three on her list was honesty.