Are you experiencing setbacks or difficulties in your adoption journey? Have you shared your problems with your adoption friends, agencies, or caseworkers? First, sharing your problems can lighten your personal load, even if your friends can just listen and offer encouragement and support. When you share with friends who have also experienced adoption, they usually share similar stories, because they have been there. Realizing that others have shared your journey can make you less anxious about the process. In addition, an experienced adoption friend might realize that you have a real problem. Also, you never know, who might be in a position to help you, even when you don’t expect it.
Over the past two years of blogging about adoption, I have made quite a few adoption friends. We maintain internet friendships, although we have never met in person. A friend I made from the other adoption site where I blogged and I have been corresponding about her adoption journey. She has been pursuing a homestudy for the entire time I have known her. The homestudy has never been completed, although she thought she was matched with an older sibling group.