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You have probably noticed that my blogs have been gravitating more toward specials needs and less about topics specific to adoption. This is because, at this stage of my adopted child’s life, his special needs affect our family much more than the fact that we adopted him into our family 11 years ago. At this stage of my adopted child’s life, adoption is a mere footnote to his life, hardly worthy of talking about, much less writing about, on a daily basis.
However, I know this will change as my adopted child moves through different stages of his life. When he was in kindergarten, he spent a lot of time sorting out what it means to have a birthmother and then, later, what it means to have a birthfather. He had lots of questions through first grade. Those questions tapered off as his attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and learning disabilities took center stage.
At age 11, my adopted child does not talk about his adoption very often. He might make a comment from time to time about his birth family, but he doesn’t seem to be putting much thought into his adoption at this stage of his life. The topic that comes up the most is his grief over his birthmother passing away. He doesn’t dwell on it, but her passing is a sensitive topic that he works through in stages.
